Just because we’re Christian doesn’t mean we don’t struggle with sexual desire. It’s not something to be ashamed of; yet often in Christian circles, conversation about desire focuses on the rules of waiting and staying pure.
I think Joy Eggerichs does a great job talking about sex and waiting in a way that acknowledges natural desires. One point I found especially relevant was that waiting is also a form of being disciplined and practicing loyalty/faithfulness to our future spouse whether they are currently in our lives or not. Take a look at a few of the posts she’s done on this topic.
Rushing marriage to end the wait? (“Ask Joy” written post)